Last week I talked about one of the most common questions I’m asked as a drum instructor, “How long does he/she (or, do I) need to take lessons?” Today, I wanted to tackle another similar question I often get. Like the first, this one also relates to many endeavors in life outside of music lessons.
“How long until I’m good?”
I’ve always thought of that as a very odd inquiry, and one that really puts me on the spot. Over the years, I’ve come up with all sorts of BS, off-the-cuff replies tailored to appease the student or parent standing in front of me. But after teaching 50-65 students per week for 13+ years, I’ve come to realize that there is truly no way that I can answer it other than responding with three more questions that only the student can answer.
#1) What is your definition of “good”?
How good do you want/intend to become? Simply good enough to just drop a stick on a drum and make a sound? Done . . . lesson over . . . please pay at the door . . . thank you very much . . . and see you next week! Good enough to impress the girls at the school talent show? Good enough to play along with your favorite AC/DC song on your drumset in the basement? Be in a band? Get called for local gigs? Be a rockstar? To each his own– these are all acceptable goals. But be aware that there are enormous differences between each of the above. What is your goal?
#2) How much effort are you planning, able and willing to put forth?
I don’t care how cool you think being a rockstar would be. And I don’t care how much you say that that’s what you want to do with your life. What I do care about is whether or not you’re willing to work hard enough to make it happen. If not, I can’t help you all that much.
In his fantastic book, The Cycle of Self Empowerment, Dom Famularo offers the following equation: Desire + Commitment = Reward
The three form a chain that will not exist if any of the links is broken. You can’t have one without the others. As with anything in life, no matter how much you desire to reach that reward, it’s absolutely impossible without a commitment to the time and work necessary to get there. Commitment is the connecting link.
I often draw the above graphic on my snare drum head with a Sharpie as a reminder that, until I’ve attained the goals I have in mind, there’s no way I can stop working my tail off.
#3) Why stop at “good”?
If music (or whatever else you happen to be learning) is simply a fun hobby or escape from your regular job, then perhaps “good” is good enough. If that’s not the case- if instead, it’s something you’re really seriously about pursuing- then I venture to say that it isn’t.
“If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing well.” – author unknown
If you are going to invest all of that time and money into lessons and gear, why not plan to do it well. Better than good, be great. As Gary Vaynerchuk would say, “crush it!” With a little dedication and focus, you might find yourself doing things you never before thought possible. It’s an amazingly liberating feeling to suddenly discover that you have the power to reach new personal heights and goals. When that happens, I guarantee that that feeling and power will start to spill over into other areas of your life. And then look out . . . what can’t you do?
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